If looks could kill, this guy would have been a goner.
I’m at a restaurant, and this man, seated with his wife at the table next to mine, decides to give a stare-down to a woman who just walked in.
Cue the wife catching him red-handed, clearly furious, and making a gesture, with the fork in her hand, that shows she would poke him in his eyes.
Now, this little incident got me thinking: is it really that bad for a guy to stare at other women when he’s got a wife right there?
And maybe you’re pondering why your hubby seems to be eyeing every woman in sight; that’s why you are here.
It’s a common thing among women; they hate it when their men’s eyes start wandering, especially in their presence.
Every woman dreams of being the one and only in her man’s eyes.
As Rihanna said, “Want you to make me feel like I’m the only girl in the world.”
But does that mean your guy is intentionally causing heartache by checking out others?
Should married men be pulling a John Cena move, ‘You Can’t See Me’, to every other woman?
I reckon what we need to unravel here is why on earth your man is giving the eye to every woman within sight.
Let’s examine the possible reasons behind this common issue.
Trust me, understanding the logic behind the gaze might just be the key to taking charge of the situation.
So, without further ado, here are the reasons your husband can’t seem to resist staring at every woman.
6 Reasons Your Husband Stares at Every Woman
1. Natural appreciation
Checking people out is just a human thing.
As long as you’ve got your eyes, it’s just inevitable.
Even people who can’t see still do some serious looking in their mind’s eye.
So understand that your husband’s staring is like him enjoying a good painting.
People, including your guy, naturally like to look at things that catch their eye, just like you’d admire a beautiful sunset or a cute puppy.
When he’s checking out another woman, it might be more about appreciating her looks, like you’d appreciate a stunning piece of art.
It doesn’t automatically mean he’s got secret plans or that he’s dissatisfied with what he’s got, which is you.
It’s just his eyeballs doing their thing.
If you both were at an art gallery, he’d probably glance at different paintings because each one has its unique charm.
It’s the same way with people.
Understanding that it’s a natural instinct to appreciate beauty can help ease your uneasy feelings without making it a big, dramatic scene.
After all, you want a man of vision.
He he he!
2. Variety in attraction
Let’s use this example to explain this.
We all have different tastes in music.
You know that right?
Some people like rock, others are into pop.
It’s the same way with attraction.
Your husband might be a music enthusiast but with people.
Just because he appreciates the beauty in someone else doesn’t mean he’s dissing you.
Your husband fell for you for a bunch of reasons, and those reasons don’t vanish just because he looks at someone else.
When he’s checking out other women, it’s not that you are lacking something, he is just enjoying the diverse beauty out there.
Those women might be some catchy song but you are still his anthem.
3. He might be lost in thought
I bet you’ve caught your man daydreaming, right?
But what if that moment he was staring at another woman wasn’t what you thought?
Sure, his eyes were on her, but maybe his mind took a detour.
Daydreaming is when your focus switches from the world around you to your inner thoughts.
Your guy might be mentally somewhere else entirely, and just because his eyes are on her doesn’t mean he’s checking her out.
We all have different visions in each moment, including you.
Maybe you’re just too caught up worrying about your husband glancing at other women, missing the bigger picture.
They say looks can be deceiving, and things aren’t always what they seem.
His stare might just be him lost in thought.
Maybe he was zoning out to that spot before the woman even showed up – who knows?
4. The other woman’s fashion sense
I’ve got this friend who’s seriously into fashion, and I’m blown away by his passion.
Even though he’s not rolling in cash, he still could afford to pay attention to every tiny detail of how people dress.
Now, picture your husband like this.
Your hubby might not be a total fashion nut like my friend, but what if he’s checking out a woman’s outfit, not the woman herself?
Maybe he’s digging the creativity or spotting a fashion faux pas, just thinking about that.
Look at me, for instance, I’m always scoping out female outfits for my wife.
When I’m out and about, I’m all eyes on other ladies’ styles, and if my wife’s stuck on what to wear, I’ve got her back.
I stash away the beauty of a woman’s outfit in my memory, ready to dish out suggestions when my wife needs them.
So, your husband might just be all about the fashion sense.
I bet you’ve caught yourself doing the same.
It’s a harmless admiration, right?
It’s that simple.
5. He might be looking at her because you are looking at her
Ever wondered if your hubby’s just following your gaze?
You might not be checking out the other woman directly, but your glance in that direction might be the green light for him to take a peek.
No harm done, right?
But, because you’re on the lookout, thinking he’s eye-wandering, you jump to the conclusion that he’s ogling the other lady.
It could be a mutual feeling, though.
While you’re keeping tabs on who he’s checking out, he might just be doing the same.
He catches your eye movement, follows your lead, and that’s it!
You both end up sharing a moment, caught in the act of looking at the same person.
Your gaze rendezvous on the other woman.
But looking back at him, you think he is lusting after the other woman.
6. The other woman makes a scene
Okay, so there are a bunch of reasons why your guy might be checking out another woman.
Maybe she looks like a celeb or someone he knows, and he’s just checking if his instincts are on point.
Heck, she might even be throwing some vibes his way.
I mean, how are you supposed to know what someone’s up to if you don’t take a peek?
She could’ve pulled a weird move that caught his eye – could be anything.
And it’s not just him; this could happen to you, too.
Just one of those things, you know?
We’re not claiming that some guys aren’t off course, honestly.
Some dudes can practically undress a woman with their eyes, already daydreaming about a fling while you’re right there.
But hey, let’s flip the coin for a second.
There are loads of reasons why your hubby might be eyeing every woman.
But what you need to do is just tell him how it hits you.
Chances are, he’s clueless.
Once you lay it out, he’ll start paying attention.
Your happiness is a big deal to us, seriously.
We’re all about keeping things positive.
So, be upfront and let the good vibes roll.