Are you dating a guy and unsure if he’s truly in love with you or just pretending?
I know it’s kinda tricky to tell when a guy is faking his feelings, especially when you are head over heels in love with him.
But some signs can give away whether he loves you or not.
Knowing these signs will help you determine if the man in your life is genuine about his affection for you or merely trying to manipulate the relationship for personal gain.
Here are some of the most common signs he pretends to love you:
10 Signs a Guy Pretends To Love You
#1 He doesn’t show interest in learning about you
A guy who is truly in love with you will try to get to know you better, express genuine curiosity about your life, and take an interest in the things that are important to you.
I mean, isn’t that what a relationship is all about?
Knowing and discovering each other.
In fact, it’s what makes dating fun.
So, if a guy isn’t making any effort to learn more about you and seems completely disinterested in finding out what makes you tick, it’s a sign he may be pretending his feelings for you.
Even when you try to share things about yourself and your life, he barely pays attention, looks bored, or quickly changes the subject.
#2 He talks about other women or shows signs of interest in them
If you are in a relationship with a guy pretending to love you, he will show signs that his mind is wandering or looking for something else.
This can take the form of him talking about other women, commenting about their looks, openly or subtly flirting with them, or just staring at them lustfully.
This shows he isn’t in love with you and is still looking for something else.
He might claim it’s just harmless fun, but if he can’t seem to keep himself in check when acknowledging other women, it’s a sure sign he doesn’t care about you.
He’s just with you for selfish reasons, whatever that is.
#3 He doesn’t try to make plans with you
Even if you are a recluse, when you are in love, you want to spend quality time with the love of your life.
It’s only natural.
When a guy pretends to love you, he won’t be motivated to make plans with you.
He may leave it up to you to suggest what you should do together, or he won’t even bother doing anything with you.
You probably are already tired of always making plans and want him to take the lead for once.
If a guy doesn’t want to do anything meaningful with you, his feelings for you aren’t real.
It may sound harsh, but that’s what happens when someone only pretends to be in love.
How can you claim to love someone, and the last thing you want to do is spend time with them?
Oh, come on, now.
#4 He avoids long conversations or deep topics
Conversations are a great way to get to know someone.
A relationship going somewhere should involve deep conversations that reveal who you are, what kind of person your partner is, and what you want from each other.
If a guy pretends to love you, he will avoid having too much depth in the conversation or discussing meaningful topics.
He might even try to divert the conversation if it starts going down an emotional path or if he becomes uncomfortable with certain topics.
This is because he doesn’t want to connect with you on an emotional level or because he’s afraid that his true intentions will be revealed.
#5 You feel like he’s only interested in what you can do for him
I agree that love is all about giving.
But if your relationship feels unbalanced—if you’re feeling like your guy is taking more than he’s giving—that’s definitely one of the signs he pretends to love you.
This is true because one of the reasons someone will pretend to care about you is because of the things they benefit from you.
They don’t want to lose that, so they pretend to be into you.
You should look out for situations where it seems like he’s just using you, like when he wants something from you and doesn’t offer anything back in return.
It could be money, material possessions, connection, or even a place to live.
Love should be a give-and-take relationship, not taking and taking, so if he doesn’t seem to care about what you need or feel, it’s a sign that there might not be real love behind his words.
#6 His compliments seem insincere and forced
Compliments are great signs of appreciation and that someone likes and notices you.
However, if a guy pretending to love you compliments you, they will lack real emotion and sound very surface-level.
They might be the same generic compliments he tells other women or his friends—they don’t convey deep feelings or connection.
Unlike real compliments from the heart, fake ones will feel empty and forced.
So if your guy can’t seem to give any meaningful compliments, it’s very likely his feelings are not genuine.
#7 He doesn’t introduce you to his family and friends
Meeting with each other’s family and friends is a big deal, so I’m not expecting him to introduce you to his people too soon.
But if he’s been with you for quite a while now, and he still hasn’t made any effort to make you meet his friends or family, that’s one of the signs he pretends to love you.
Building a relationship requires both parties to invest in each other—to show that they care about the other person enough to want them to be a part of their inner circle.
If he always seems to avoid introducing you to his people or keeps making excuses, it probably means that the relationship is going nowhere and that he’s only pretending to care about you.
#8 He rarely shows signs of physical affection (hugs, holding hands, etc.) except it will end in the bedroom
Physical contact is an important part of a relationship.
It’s how we show our love and affection for one another, and it should be natural and free-flowing.
But if the guy you’re with only shows signs of physical affection in the bedroom or when he wants something from you, that’s definitely one of the signs he pretends to love you.
This is because genuine signs of physical affection come from having a sincere emotional connection with someone, and if that’s missing, then all signs of physical contact will seem forced or fake.
#9 He often changes the subject when talking about your concerns about your relationship
This is a major sign that he’s not being sincere in the relationship.
If he constantly changes the subject when you bring up issues related to your relationship, it’s because he doesn’t want to confront any problems you’re having.
It shows he’s not as committed to the relationship as he claims, and this is definitely one of the signs he pretends to love you.
He doesn’t want to fix any issues because he’s not planning to hang around for too long—he’s just pretending to care about you.
#10 He breaks up with you with no or flimsy reason
This is a clear sign that he was only pretending to love you.
If a guy breaks up with you suddenly, without any reasonable explanation or signs of closure, it’s because he was never genuinely invested in the relationship.
He doesn’t want to explain himself or work things out because there were no deep feelings involved—he was just pretending to care about you.
If you find yourself in a relationship with someone who seems to be displaying any of these signs, then there’s a chance that he doesn’t really love you.
Be more observant to be sure you are reading the situation right.
It’s better to be aware than left in the dark about your relationship.
If it turns out that he was only pretending to care about you, then don’t worry—you can move on and find someone who will genuinely love and appreciate you for who you are.
Better to be single than be with a pretender.