Really, Why do guys want multiple girlfriends?
It seems like the idea of “one guy, one lady” is fast becoming a thing of the past.
Guys talk freely about the array of girlfriends they have.
And it’s pretty interesting that their babes sometimes know their boyfriends aren’t for them alone.
They are fine as long as he fulfills his part of his deal.
This is interesting, yeah.
Let me quickly say that not every guy keeps numerous girlfriends.
Some stick to one partner at a time.
Come to think of it, why do some guys desire to have multiple girlfriends?
Let’s dig into these few probable reasons.
10 Reasons Guys Want Multiple Girlfriends
1. As a backup plan
Have you observed that, for the most part, guys who keep multiple girlfriends usually have trust issues?
You will hear them say, “All women are the same,” or “I can never trust my heart to a woman.”
So many of them believe that ladies go for the highest bidder.
Hence, they don’t want a lady to leave them stranded.
To guard against this, they’d rather keep seeing other girls.
They are for everybody but for nobody.
As they profess their undying love to Lady A, they do the same to Lady B.
While in the mind of each of them, they are the “only flower in his garden.”
He doesn’t believe any of them until they prove themselves.
This is tantamount to deception.
Because why will you be playing games with the heart of ladies who have decided to commit to you?
2. Pleasure/ Varieties
There’s a famous saying that- variety is the spice of life.
Some guys keep numerous girlfriends because they want “a taste of different specs of ladies.”
They want to explore.
They date each lady for the peculiarities they possess.
Talk of a plump lady; they have dated her.
Slim? They have dated her.
Have you ever heard a guy say, “How can I stick with an orange forever?” Na dem! Lol.
Just imagine equating a woman to orange.
They don’t believe a man can ever do without having more than one girlfriend. It’s unheard of.
They are used to it.
If you’re close to them and you raise an eyebrow, they tell you this is the time they have to explore.
And they want to enjoy life to the fullest.
3. Curiosity
This category of men keeps multiple girlfriends out of curiosity about what it feels like.
They want to have an experience of how it works.
And be able to give a first-hand account of their experience.
A curious guy won’t conclude until he has tested the waters himself.
But there’s a saying that “curiosity kills the cat.”
Although, these guys know how to play their cards well to avoid being caught.
4. Peer group
The association we keep can influence us either negatively or positively.
This is because you spend more time with them, you rub minds together.
If a guy is friends with people who see nothing wrong with keeping multiple girlfriends,
It’s just natural to start taking on their ways.
The peer group has both its negatives and positives.
The saying, “Show me your friend, and I will tell you who you are,” stands true.
5. Expectations
If you ask some people to tell you want in a lady, when they’re done talking, you will think it’s an angel they wish to marry.
This is because their list is endless.
They expect perfection.
They suddenly forget that they aren’t perfect themselves.
And they aren’t willing to beat down their expectations.
They soon discover that no one has it all.
And to make for this, they’d want to keep multiple girlfriends, each having at least one of his desired qualities.
6. Fear of Commitment
The fear of staying true to one person is one of the reasons why some guys two-time.
A guy once tweeted that he gets tired of people hence his reason for keeping multiple partners.
Also, some do this because they want to “be free.”
They are for everyone but for no one.
They want to take responsibility for whatever happens.
They want to keep their options open.
7. Past experiences
When some guys tell you what they’ve been through at the hands of ladies, you will feel sorry for them.
Some have invested their time, energy, and resources into their supposed sweethearts only to be served “hot breakfast.”
And as a way of guarding against a repeat of such eventuality, they resort to “keeping their options open” and dating as many women as possible at the time.
These set of people have lost trust in women.
They only date to see which one will stand the test of time before they now commit their heart.
8. Cultural or societal norm.
This narrative is being peddled- “men are polygamous in nature.”
It’s interesting, right?
This means that by the male construct, it’s almost impossible to settle for just one woman.
If he desires to stay faithful to a woman, “he’s not man enough.”
Hence, they are free to sample as many women as they wish.
Men are free to exercise their freedom because it’s in their nature.
But really, is this true?
Are they polygamous or just looking for excuses to make up for their indiscipline?
9. Avoiding emotional intimacy
When a guy is in a committed relationship with just one partner, it strengthens intimacy.
He’s vulnerable with his partner.
And they express love to each other from the deepest part of your heart.
He’s free to share his plans, goals, and aspirations.
But this is almost impossible when he has numerous girlfriends.
He’s not committed to them. However, he tries to play his game so well.
He only uses them to pass the time.
He enjoys the attention he gets from them, and that’s all that matters.
10. Validation
Having numerous girls flock around them makes some guys feel like “the happening guy.”
They feel like the one who knows how to play his card well and is getting ladies at his beck and call.
This is where they get their validations from.
Men who believe they can have as many women as they like and control them due to their whims will surely have self-esteem issues.
Conclusion
Well, while some believe in fidelity to one partner per time In a relationship, they stay true to themselves and sacrifice to see everything work out.
Some others believe life is to be enjoyed by keeping multiple girlfriends.
It gives them a sense of fulfillment.
Most people who keep many girlfriends don’t even consider their partners’ feelings.
And for the most part, they hurt women who deeply care about them.